Laura Dale & Associates, P.C.
Se Habla Español Nous Parlons Français
Call 713-574-7952 or 888-572-6059
888-572-6059

Is your ex too emotional to co-parent?

It is understandable if your spouse is feeling some anger and bitterness in the wake of your breakup, especially if he or she was caught off guard by your request for a divorce. Commonly, spouses who are going through a contentious breakup have high emotions to deal with and often direct their unhappiness at each other. You may see this in your spouse, so try to have patience as he or she works through this difficult time.

When children are involved, however, you may have a limit to your patience. In fact, the behavior you are noticing in your ex may indicate that you could be in for a difficult time if your spouse is unable to gain control of his or her emotions.

When they can't move forward

Going through a divorce often leads to stages of grief similar to those you may experience after the death of a loved one. Passing through those stages is important for reaching a healthy state of mind. You may recognize those periods of anger, bargaining and depression in yourself, so it is no surprise that your ex is feeling these, too.

However, be aware of signs that your ex is not moving to a healthier place. If any of the following occur, you may wish to seek professional advice:

  • Your ex refuses to enforce rules you have established for your children, such as bedtime or chores. This could cause confusion with your children and encourage your kids to play you against your ex.
  • Your ex persists in making negative comments about you, especially in front of the children. Kids tend to personalize insults against their parents.
  • Your ex refuses to adjust when circumstances require a change in schedules. 
  • Your ex monitors the way you spend support payments or expresses resentment for having to make the payments.
  • Your ex tries to sabotage any new relationships you may have, such as sending inappropriate or explicit text messages.
  • Your ex cannot speak civilly to you, even at public events or school functions.

If you are dealing with issues like this during the early stages before or after your divorce, you may find yourself facing some custody challenges from a former partner who continues to refuse to cooperate. You may want to take matters into your own hands, but in many cases, having the strength of the law behind you can make a difference. A Texas attorney can advise you on the best way to proceed when your ex is making it impossible to co-parent.

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information

Client Testimonials

  1. Laura Dale the best Family Law attorney I have ever met... Posted by John...Listens, takes your calls, tells you the truth (even when it may not be what you want to hear)... Read More

  2. The Best...Posted by a Child Custody client... Laura Dale handled my international child custody and divorce matter. I am an attorney in Houston and was referred to her... Read More

  3. A Meticulous, Knowledgeable, Attorney with Heart...Posted by a Child Custody client... Laura was not the first attorney that my husband and I interviewed for an extremely complex... Read More

  4. Top Notch, Hands Down - The Best...Posted by Tammi, a Child Custody client... Laura Dale has been absolutely the best attorney I could have found for my difficult child custody... Read More

Contact Our Experienced Team Today | Se habla español | Nous parlons français

Due to the experience our lawyers have in many specialized areas, you can rely on us to put together the right team to handle your case, even if it centers on complex issues such as international family law, business valuation or bankruptcy. Contact us today to make an appointment to discuss your needs with a knowledgeable lawyer.

Login to Client Portal

Laura Dale & Associates, P.C.
1800 Saint James Place
Suite 620
Houston, TX 77056

Fax: 713-600-1718
Houston Law Office Map