It is no secret that a number of divorces in Texas are initiated in January. The reasons behind this notion include the desire to start the new year by making a life-changing decision, and surviving the holiday season without ruining it for children. Whatever the reason, successful divorces are not completed in a vacuum. It takes careful planning. With that, we offer some helpful tips in planning for your divorce in 2014.
The holiday season can be a difficult time for people in the throes of a divorce. The questions that come from well-wishers can become annoying, just like the prying questions from your soon-to-be ex-spouse. With all the emotional trauma that comes with a holiday split, parents sometimes forget that children can be affected as well. After all, the season is supposed to be special, and they may not feel as if they can enjoy it if their parents are not well. Moreover, they may feel as if the divorce is all their fault, which can make the season that much more difficult for them.
Now that Thanksgiving has come and gone, the holiday season begins in earnest. If you are in a troubled marriage, and have survived a holiday gathering, you may not be looking forward to the next few weeks. This is especially true if rumors have been swirling about the state of your relationship, or if you are considering divorce. After all, you may feel as if you are in an awkward position.
Texas residents may be interested to learn that entertainment and media mogul Rupert Murdoch finalized his divorce from his third wife on Nov. 20. The couple met in a Manhattan court to notify a judge of their decision. They did not release the terms of this high-asset divorce settlement; however, the couple issued a statement confirming that they reached an "amicable" agreement and declined to comment further.
One of the most difficult decisions a divorcee will make is choosing a lawyer. While it may seem like a simple choice, hiring a lawyer can be difficult in that a client must select an attorney who they comfortable sharing intimate details of their lives, they must have the experience to deal with the unique issues their divorce, and they must have the correct temperament to maintain the client’s cool.
Divorce is hard enough by yourself, dealing with the advice and opinions of family and friends can be nerve-wracking. While they may feel like they are trying to help, their opinions could make things that should not be difficult during a divorce unbearable. Suffice it to say, there comes a point in every makeshift therapy session where a potential divorcee has to make a decision about the advice they are getting.
Many people in the throes of divorce may be concerned about whether a spouse is hiding assets. However, people in these positions may not have the resources to hire a forensic accountant or another investigator root out assets that are rightfully yours. While you may gasp at the sight of your spouse’s financial affidavit (because you know it’s not true), there are several documents that your attorney can request (and review) to find hidden assets.
At this time of year, many people are working through troubled marriages, but they may not be ready to initiate a divorce. They may be intimidated by their spouse or the specter of backlash from family members who believe they should continue to work on the marriage. People considering divorce may also be hamstrung by the many myths that come with divorce, such as rich men always have an advantage in divorce court, or working women are seen as betraying children.
It's no secret that financial issues can lead to marital discord, and subsequently to divorce. With that, many people in financial (and emotional) toil may be unsure about how to proceed with dividing property and debt. The question becomes much more complicated with the prospect of bankruptcy is involved. Specifically, what should be done first: a divorce or bankruptcy?
Indeed, divorce can be emotionally difficult for the spouses involved. After all, it is the end of a relationship that the parties believed would stand the test of time, and the sense of betrayal (or cruelty) can have lifelong consequences. The turmoil of divorce can also have a detrimental effect on children. Kids have a unique sense of blaming themselves for the demise of their parents' relationship, and this can also lead to destructive behavior.