When you are going through a difficult divorce, everything that used to make sense or seem to be true may not any longer. Your life will feel complex, and the stresses will feel difficult to resolve or escape from. It’s also likely that you’ll have a wide range of worries and fears, from suffering financially, living in loneliness or losing custody of your children.
During one of the most difficult phases of your life, having the right mindset is key. Having a long-term vision and trust believing that this too will pass will help you to gain the emotional stamina that you need to get through the divorce. The following are some tips and tricks for staying optimistic during a difficult divorce.
Get enough sleep
It sounds so simple, but getting into healthy daily routines is one of the keys to having a healthy outlook and balanced emotions. Being stressed can get people into a vicious cycle because they fall into bad living habits which further increases their stress. Try to get eight hours of sleep, and if you have trouble sleeping, spend a few days training your body clock by getting into bed at the same time each night, avoiding alcohol and caffeine, and creating bedtime routines such as drinking chamomile tea, lowering the lights and playing relaxing music.
Keep a journal
Remember that all suffering comes from our thoughts. Of course, difficult times make it more challenging to have positive thoughts, but by managing our emotions we can reduce our suffering. Keeping a journal can be therapeutic — it can enable us to get all our emotions off our chest and to process the thoughts in a constructive way. It can help you to manage anxiety and actually help you to find solutions by reasoning with yourself in written form.
While you may not be optimistic about the future right now, remember that you cannot change the past, but you are in control of what you do going forward. Taking action to plan your divorce strategically is one way to feel more optimistic about the future.
