Planning for divorce takes time. It’s often best to get your paperwork in order well in advance, especially with significant assets. You may need bank statements so that you can prove/monitor those assets, for instance, or you may want to gather investment statements, mortgage papers, pension plan details and much else.
All of this takes time and is crucial to making sure the divorce goes smoothly. This is why understanding the signs and red flags associated with divorce is important. Even if neither you or your spouse have filed for divorce yet, you can begin getting ready when you know that it’s coming.
The most common signs
Clearly, every marriage will have its own red flags. For some couples, an increase in arguing could mean that things are unraveling, while others wouldn’t be worried about it because that’s just how they communicate. You have to make these calls for yourself. That said, here are some of the most common signs that may provide advance warning:
- Your spouse begins making excuses to be somewhere else, such as staying late at the office.
- Your spouse spends more time with their friends than they do with you.
- The two of you just do not have any shared interests and time together seems like a chore.
- You’re facing a high level of financial stress.
- You do not agree on the way that you should use money — i.e., saving or spending — and it leads to the aforementioned financial stress.
- You used to argue about things and disagree, but now your spouse just sort of tunes out and doesn’t engage in these disagreements.
If your marriage does end and you’re headed for an official divorce, you must know about all of the legal steps you’ll need to take to protect your interests and your future.