If you are filing for divorce, you might feel like telling your children one at a time is best. You plan to sit down with each one and explain to them what is happening. It may seem better on the surface because you can focus on one child at a time and ensure you address all their questions and concerns.
However, this may not be the best strategy. In most situations, it is best to let them know about your divorce when everyone is together.
Ensure they all hear the news from you
You should not tell your children about the divorce separately because you want to ensure they all hear the news from you and your spouse. This is a huge change for kids of all ages; it is best if they hear it from their parents. If you tell some of your children before the others, the siblings may tell one another or hear it from a friend or another family member.
You can still have one-on-one conversations with each child. Just ensure that you start with a family conversation where you explain that the divorce is coming. This ensures everyone will be on the same page. Once you have this first discussion, you can speak to each child alone. Don’t try to rush this step, or you may make the situation even more challenging for them.
Discussing custody and living arrangements
At some point, your children will want to know whom they will live with and where they will live. If you aren’t sure about custody, you should be honest. You should also learn about your legal options to know your rights in this situation.