Divorce is a difficult, complex time and process for anyone going through it. It can bring out the worst in people, and emotions often run high, which can sometimes lead to making mistakes. While no one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes once in a while, it is critical to keep in mind important mistakes you should avoid making during the divorce process so your divorce goes as smoothly as possible.
You are going through a tough time, but it is critical to remember that this will pass, and eventually, you will recover and regain the sense of identity that you feel you might be losing as this chapter of your life comes to a close.
While you are going through the divorce process, it is best to avoid making the following mistakes, which could impact the outcome of your divorce and your life afterward.
Speaking poorly of your spouse to your children
Emotions always run high during a divorce, and it can be even more emotional when children are involved. However, you must remember that the divorce is between you and your spouse and not between your child and your spouse. It is critical to protect the children and to do everything you can to prioritize their well-being.
Texas Courts look at the best interests of the child as the standard to use when making custody decisions. As such, you should be careful when speaking to your child about the other parent in a negative way, as that could be interpreted as a harmful act toward the child.
In addition, it is unhealthy for children to bear the weight of their parents’ issues. While it is impossible to shield them from the divorce, there are things both parents can do to lessen the negative impact the divorce has on them.
Keeping important information from your attorney
Another common mistake people make is not sharing information with their attorney. It is vital to the case that your attorney knows everything they need to know about you. Do not be afraid or hesitate to share anything and everything with them, as they are bound by law to keep everything you tell them between you and them. In addition, they are there to support and advocate for you, which they can do best if they know as much as possible.
Allowing your emotions to get in the way of your decision-making
The decisions you make now during the divorce process will impact your life for years to come. It is important to ensure that every decision you make reflects your true desires and that you are level-headed and rational when negotiating with the other side, talking with your attorney and ultimately making decisions about where you stand and what you want.
The divorce process is an emotionally draining process that will feel like it takes everything from you. Even though it feels that way now, it will not feel like this forever, and these emotions will pass.
You will recover and regain the strength you once had. You will also create a brand new life for yourself, regain your identity and perhaps even discover that you are a different person in many respects, which will lead to adapting to this new life as the person you now are.