At this time of year, many people are working through troubled marriages, but they may not be ready to initiate a divorce. They may be intimidated by their spouse or the specter of backlash from family members who believe they should continue to work on the marriage. People considering divorce may also be hamstrung by the many myths that come with divorce, such as rich men always have an advantage in divorce court, or working women are seen as betraying children.
Through this post, we will debunk some of these myths for people who are considering divorce.
Myth #1 – Divorces will leave a person in financial ruins – If a divorcee was struggling financially before a divorce, there is a chance that divorce may not improve their situation. However, alternative dispute resolution practices such as mediation and collaborative divorce takes the financial burden away from a number of divorces.
Myth #2 – I won’t be able to live with myself for giving up on the marriage – It’s one thing to give up on a marriage, but it is another to give up on yourself. There’s no sense in trying to save a marriage where only one spouse (you) is willing to put in the work. Because of this, there’s no guilt in moving on with life so that you can be happy. After all, you only have one life to live.
Myth #3 – The kids will be forever scarred – The kids may be upset initially, or they could be relieved that the bickering and arguing will stop. Regardless, kids of divorce have shown to be resilient and generally go on to live productive lives.
Source: HuffingtonPost.com, “Mediator as truthsayer,” Laurie Israel, October 23, 2013