Parents who decide that their marriage is over have to make the situation easier for the children. This isn’t always easy because it requires the exes to work together as a parenting team.
Keeping your focus on the kids is one of the most important things you can do. Try not to think about how decisions will make your life easier or your ex’s life more difficult. Instead, think only about how each decision impacts the children.
Set up the schedule
Your children are going to want to know when they get to spend time with each parent. Getting the parenting time schedule set as early as possible in the divorce can help the children feel stable. It may behoove you to talk to the children about special times of the year and what they can expect. You and your ex must show that you’re a team and that the kids will have both parents involved in their life.
Plan for disagreements
As your child is growing up, you’re bound to have disagreements with your co-parent. Plan ahead for how these will be handled. Except for an emergency, it might be best if you both take some time to think about the problem and possible solutions before you discuss it again. This gives you time to calm down and think clearly before you make a firm decision.
When you’re going through a divorce, you have to think about what’s best for the children. Working out the parenting plan can help you set up the stability the children need for the future. Try to get this done quickly. Understanding your options may help you work through all the matters you need to cover to do this successfully.