Co-parents can’t always avoid having to attend the same events for their children. For some, these joint events are nothing more than a way to support their kids. For others, these are a test in patience because of the stress between them and their ex.
Anytime exes are going to have to attend joint events, it’s a good idea to have a set of rules to govern the situation. These must be based on what’s best for the children and on what can make the day more enjoyable for them.
Avoid contentious topics
These joint events, which might include birthday parties and school events, aren’t a place to discuss contentious matters. Instead, everything should be kept calm and focused on the children. It may help for both parents to remember that these events can be a primary source of memories for their children.
Respect must be a priority
Even without discussing contentious matters, tension can still be present. Committing to remaining respectful of each other can help parents to put aside their differences and enjoy the experience of raising their children. It may help some parents to think of these interactions with their exes as business-like situations.
In the parenting plan, there should be information about parents notifying each other about these events. Including terms for joint events and other situations that may occur while raising the children is critical. It may be easier to get the plan together if you work with someone familiar with these matters.